Twelve

Amy and I celebrated our twelve year anniversary on May 25th. Amy took me hiking up Flattop and then in the evening I took her to a nice restaurant. Our waiter, knowing it was our anniversary and getting married himself in a couple weeks asked for some advice. It kind of shocked us that we've been married long enough for folks to be soliciting some marriage tips. Unfortunately twelve years is a long marriage anymore. So on the way home we discussed what our quick answer marriage tip should be. Our answer and a a truth for our own marriage is "divorce is not an option." There was a scene in the movie Juno where the main character confronting a couple in the midst of a divorce exclaimed, "You were in love once, you're just not trying hard enough." There's a lot of truth to that. Maybe it seems too simplistic, but barring cases of abuse or infidelity it so often comes down to a couple's dogged determination to make things work. To mean the vows you promised and do whatever it takes. Amy and I have fought for our marriage and we're proud of the things we've accomplished and worked through.